It took 4 months…

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but the kids are FINALLY going to bed on their own! Hallelujah!

When we first got home the end of June bedtime was a mess… there was no routine ( it was hard to develop one at the guest house) and chaos ensued. Manny would only go to sleep if one of us held and rocked him… then he’d usually wake up during the transfer to his bed… Betti was still figuring us out and had lots of energy… she wasn’t in school yet and didn’t have to get up so early… so she was eager to stay up until 10pm or later each night… we couldn’t get the kids to stay in their room if they weren’t asleep so we felt pretty helpless and exhausted those first few weeks.

Once we finally nailed down a solid bedtime routine things got better. We felt like it was a huge victory when we were finally able to get the kids to stay in their beds and go to sleep on their own… as long as one of us was sitting in the chair in the corner of their room… so that was our new routine… once we said our good nights and gave our hugs and kisses… Alan and I would take turns sitting in their room reading a book or checking email until the kids fell asleep… then we’d sneak out and all would be well with the world.

One thing Alan and I so desperately craved since we came home with the kids was night-time freedom. We looked forward to the time when 8pm and after would be ours… We were happy and content to take turns sitting in the kids room because this had been such an improvement from before… and we’d usually be free by 8:30pm or so… but we also looked forward to the end of this ritual… A few times I told the kids we weren’t going to sit in their room, but that never turned out well…

Finally, I had a brilliant idea…. “why don’t I just talk to Betti about it before bedtime!” Amazing… I know… So a few days ago I sat Betti on my lap and explained to her that she and Manny had been in our home for 4 months and they knew they were safe. They knew Mommy and Daddy weren’t going anywhere and that we would stay in the house while they slept. I told her she was old enough to go to sleep on her own and she could help Manny understand this as well… then I told her I didn’t think we needed to sit in their room anymore at night… She thought for a second… then said “Ok Mommy” and went off to play… the last few nights we’ve left their room after goodnight kisses… Betti goes to sleep just fine… Manny usually comes out of the room 2 or 3 times to test us, but eventually he goes to sleep as well…

We finally have our nights! Thank you Jesus!!!

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About roadtoadoption

We are Alan & Julie Briggs. In June 2010 we brought home Bethlehem and Emanuel from Ethiopia. We're enjoying this new family thing and will attempt to document some of our journey here. In July 2011 we added Eli to the family. No kids to 3 kids in 13 months... possibly some sort of record. :)

5 responses »

  1. Awesome! It’s amazing how kids understand the Spirit. You gave her what she needed and freed her to give what you needed. She just needed to hear your reassurances and understand the plan. Beautiful. Well done Julie!

  2. What a huge blessing to have time with your spouse! Glad Betti transitioned into that responsibility so well. And… this picture is PRICELESS.

  3. We had sleep issues with our 2 bio boys. You guys are doing great. By the way, our boys are 11 & 13 now and don’t have sleep issues any more. ; )

  4. As an “insider” with first hand knowledge 🙂 I’d just like to say that I think Julie and Alan are wonderful parents doing a great job! I see two kids who are quickly adapting to their new family and feeling loved and safe. I love the hugs and kisses I get as Nana. I will treasure these first months with you all forever.

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