Monthly Archives: March 2010

Too much time…

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I only work 20 hours a week now (this is Julie writing)… so I think I have too much time on my hands to think about what’s to come… and wonder how long it will take… right now that doesn’t feel like a good thing… it makes me feel restless…

~Julie

Ticker Update

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You might notice a change in our money ticker on the right sidebar of our blog… we’ve changed our fundraising goal from $30,000 to $34,000. We’ve done this because our agency recently informed families that with an additional trip to Ethiopia required… it will probably increase families expenses by $5,000 to $7,000. This could seem like a lot of money, but seeing how God has provided over $29,000 in the last year… we’re not too worried about it.

We’ve been blown away by the support from friends, family, and people we don’t even know. To everyone who has given or prayed… Thank You! We’re not worried about the financial part of adoption… we’re trying to focus on what it will be like to have our kids here with us. It’s like when you get engaged… you should be preparing for marriage… not just a wedding… 🙂

Feel free to contact us with any questions… or if you want to contract a painting… Alan still has his creative juices flowing!

Changes and Birth Families

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Most of the Ethiopian adoption world already knows this, but for those of you who don’t… Ethiopia now requires adoptive parents to be present at the court date. This means that adoptive families now have to travel twice. The first trip is meant to be about 5 days… you meet your kids and attend court. Then you go back home without your children… and return 3 to 6 weeks later for your U.S. Embassy appointment and to bring your kids home… I don’t think this is bad news… it just changes things… it means more money for extra plane tickets… in all honesty… Alan and I are hoping that we can make some way to just stay in country the whole time… we don’t want to come home for a month and go right back… we don’t want to leave our kids behind after we’ve met them… we’d rather stay in Africa the whole time… this will depend on money and time off work… but it is for sure our preference.

On an unrelated note… I’ve been thinking a lot about birth families… my brother and sister-in-law were just placed with a baby through domestic adoption… we were talking the other night about the extreme grief that baby’s birthmother is going through right now… She knows she can’t take on another baby right now and that she’s made the right decision for her child… but it still hurts… I can’t imagine what it would feel like to place your child into another mother/father’s arms and know that it will be them to watch your child grow and not you…

It’s different, but the same with international adoption… I mentioned this before, but I can’t stand the idea of raising children who have a mother/family that wants them and loves them… but just can’t afford to feed them or take care of them… but I will take any children the Lord gives me and love and teach them the best I can…

Take a moment to think about and pray for birth mothers/families… no one can ever know their pain unless they’ve experienced it themselves… They are among the bravest/more selfless people in the world…

One Year

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One year ago we began our adoption process. We had no idea how long it would take. I naively thought that we’d have our paperwork done in 3 or 4 months and be on the waitlist by the end of summer 2009. I also thought that we might even get our referral before the end of 2009. Obviously, I was incorrect. We didn’t get on the waitlist until October and we’re still waiting for our referral. Honestly, I’m not surprised that we’re still waiting. We’ve been on the waitlist for 5 months now and it very well could be several more months before we see their faces. I’ve learned to stop guessing and just keep living. It’s not always easy, but what other choice do we have? The only guess we can give at this point is that we believe we’ll have our kids home by the end of the year. Hopefully we won’t be wrong on that one.

Thanks for all the prayers and support… we’re getting closer everyday!