I’ve never had this happen before. I called a friend back today, and he said he’d like to buy a piece of art from me…and give it back to us. He explained that he wanted our kids to enjoy it someday and see their daddy’s love for them. He would only pay for it if we vowed to keep it. I was blown away.
Julie generally reacts with “that’s awesome…bummer” when a piece of art sells. Good for money, bad because she had gotten attached to it.
This will be an tender story to tell our little ones. Thanks Kris! You da man!
Roots- because they will always be Ethiopian, our faith has roots there, and family gives roots
Julie and I probably have kids…alive…right at this moment. Weird to think about today as fathers day when I’m thinking about my kids half way across this globe who I don’t even know yet. I was surprised to hear a few folks tell me happy fathers day today as they remembered this. Thanks for realizing this before I even did.
Alan here- I just talked with a friend of mine who has been in Rwanda for the last year. He knows a guy on the ground giving aid to Ethiopia. Two folks from our church are now living in Ethiopia. Friends of ours at Childrens Hope Chest are building relationships with leaders and villages over there. We want to build relationships with leaders there so we can partner with them and have an impact on the country.
So…if you know anyone who lives over or partners with ministries over there please let us know at alanbriggsis(at)gmail(dot)com
Today Julie and I had an adoption training in Denver. Family history, fear of neglect, attachement/disattachment, anger, and questioning family of origin were a few of the topics tagged. There are so many complex issues around this one issue, and we are getting a deeper understanding of some of them. The woman who taught this was adopted and shared her personal thoughts.
Here are a few that really stuck out to me…
“Exploring is normal” ALL adoptive kids want (need?) to know their family history in order to understand their identity. This isn’t an insult to you, it’s simply human.
“Every kid is different” Some settle in great and love their situation and some are haunted by the belief that they weren’t good enough and never will be.
“Different stages will lend to more honesty” From the start they should know they are adopted, but different stages will prompt them to not just ask the “how” of adoption but the “why”.
“Adoptive parents HAVE to be advocates” You must advocate for your kids and for the country they come from. You cannot make them devoid of the culture they arrive from, yet they must feel like they are still American. This can be a hard balance
“When they are angry at you they’re usually not angry at you” Weird, but true. They will often channel anger toward their adoptive parents that is really more about the birth family or their pervious living situation.
It was a great training and we continue to learn and grow through this process. We are still very excited for our kids and we realize it’s never easy raising kids, expecially adopted ones.
For a great resource on how your kids should deal with comments about them not looking like mommy and daddy check this out.
What: The Briggs’ & Matthews’ are putting on an acoustic house show to raise money & awareness for their adoptions. Come by to hear songs and see art they’ve crafted. $10 at the door and dessert is included. Africa art will be priced for donation, as well as fused glass jewelery. Come join in this process with them as they share their stories on their roads to Ethiopian adoption.
When: Friday, June 19th, 7pm – 9pm
Where: Buchanan’s House – 2366 Craycroft Drive, Colorado Springs
I was sitting with a few friends talking about deep life truths. Then one of them piped up and said, “If we say we’re pro-life we HAVE to be pro-adoption.” It hit me between the eyes. I had never heard it said that bluntly before.
Today Julie and I helped facilitate the local ‘Walk for Life’ here in the Springs. Julie works at Life Network doing administration and counseling many young, possibly-pregnant women. In addition to my job as the student pastor at Vanguard Church I speak in the local high schools about the benefits of abstinence. Julie’s mom is the director of the pregnancy center here in town. My brother and sister-in-law adopted a boy and are in process of adopting another. We are adopting two kids from Ethiopia. These things are not accidents.
Recently it occured to me that so much of the Briggs’ lives are dedicated to re-awakening the call to see people through the loving eyes of God…students, young mothers, fetuses, children. We love them all. So does God. Only two weeks ago I realized that these aren’t separate events, ministries, or ideas. Our ministies are the regurgitation of the love God has given us that we are giving to others.
So, should pro-life = pro-adoption? We believe it should. We believe it’s shallow and empty to say that women should birth unplanned babies without us stepping up to do something about it. We MUST offer them an alternative. We MUST be willing to sacrifice something costly if we can back up our cause of call to see lives be spared. Please don’t get me wrong, there are some who might not actually do the adopting, but they should do something. We have had friends step up to give us money, encourage us, and pray their mugs off for us because they believe in life. They have shared their lives and their hearts with us as they have said, “we believe in you guys and we believe in adoption!” ~Alan